Light Around The Corner

I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt in sl. Over the years i have learned alot of things about life, people and myself. but there's one thing that always nags at me when i stop by at heritage adoption center. I've been in sl five years i've been trying to do the sl family thing for four and what troubles me is how people dont always respond when i IM them telling them that i happen to have liked there panel. I suppose you could say after trying this for the past four years I've become anxious when i try yet again to put another panel up an just hope for the best. I feel like there could be a better way to do the whole adoption process in sl. The whole thing really can make someone feel really alone with no support in trying to find a family. The way i picture it is like a mother giving birth to her child then setting her child on the floor naked an cold an walking out the door saying " good luck kid your on your own" and i guess thats really how ive felt the past four years with this. I've even givin up at times an have taken down my panel all because i feel like im not good enough. Granted over the four years i have had my trial an errors with sl family's trying to adopt me but in the end it doesn't always end well. I wonder if there could be a better way of doing the whole adoption process. Having a few panels up at once an only allowing the children be on the panels whether young or in there twenties an only allowing the panels to be locked until you make an appointment with a guidance counselor to help you with the process. Then having the parents make an appointment with the counselor to meet with them to look over the notecards so that they can contact the child on the panel an tell them they have someone waiting to meet them an that the counselor an the parent in waiting can sit down an talk to see if your compatible with the person. So your never on your own an the children that sign up for the panel can always have a counselor available to talk to about the process. Then if the talking session with the parent an counselor go well then you can go on a 5 day trail an during that time the counselor would make a house call to your sl home to see how things are going. This way you dont get random people who are new to the game an are half dressed an have literately no idea what they are doing an want to adopt. There should be a policy that your account should atleast be a year old before you can try to adopt. My idea would probably never work an its probably way to time consuming being sl is just a game. I think people sometimes forget that feelings are a big part of how sl works an i know that people are probably consumed with other things in rl an distracted with stuff there doing in sl but when you see someone IM you an say that they happen to like your NC an want to chat it would probably be best to IM them back an say "thanks i will read your nc soon an when im done we can chat!" I mean how hard is it to IM someone back? Are people really that self absorbed that our society has lost all its manners? Even for a game you'd think people would be kind but really they arnt .....I've learned alot of people in sl can be very two faced because its easier to lie an say your nice when really there personality could be quite the opposite...So if your reading this remember there are people with feelings behind the screen an if somone IMs you IM them back even if you dont always feel like it....